Pregnancy, Parenting, and Family Resources

Find out if she's pregnant.  We offer free, confidential pregnancy tests.  Offer to go with her to an ultrasound appointment as well. 

Learn about your options. She's carrying the baby, but now you're both parents. You deserve a clear understanding of how abortion, adoption, or parenting can affect both of you. Even though abortion may seem like an easy way out if you weren't planning for her to get pregnant, it is also a permanent decision that often has negative effects on the relationship and both partners.

Listen to her thoughts and feelings. What's she excited about?  What's she scared of?

Tell her what you're thinking and feeling.  If you're not sure how to start, say something like "when you told me your period was late, I felt ____, because ____.  Now that I've had a little time to think about it, and hear what you're saying, I feel ____, because ____."

Let her know how important she is to you. Don't pressure her about the pregnancy or withdraw. Instead, commit to exploring your options together and getting whatever help you need to make your relationship better than ever.

Talk about it.  You have what it takes to be a great dad, and you don't have to do it alone.